… and in the end you’re just something I failed
Tag: couples
Journey to Recovery
Don’t be scared to speak up. It’s harder when you try to burden everything on your own. If you feel broken know that every day you can become that much more stronger, and if you keep at it every part of you will be stronger and more sturday than it ever was before. Don’t let people silence you. Once you’re ready don’t hold back and make your voice matter. If you feel safer being silent that doesn’t mean you’re wrong and it’s okay to take your time. Anyone who suffers from addiction, abuse, ED, or anything else under the sun, you matter. It’s okay to seek support or even therapy. Or any safe places. Know you’re not alone. Even if it may feel like that. If you even have that one person it could feel a little less lonely. And it is lonely especially if people haven’t gone through certain things it feels like they can’t truly understand they can only think that they do.
20 Things that Men Should Know About Women
Just a few things I’ve picked up along the way to help find, keep and satisfy the ever changing dynamic of a woman. Gentlemen, if you’re seeking her heart and hand, then maybe some of these might serve you well. Even if you have her heart, keep it happy by doing more than what she expects.
These aren’t all the answers, but a few ideas that will be a great start. Just sharing some pointers that I’ve learned along the way. I hope maybe this helps anyone who just needs a fresh perspective.
1 – She loves it when you snuggle with her. Closeness is a part of intimacy.
2 – Kisses on the forehead are always welcome..well, probably kisses anywhere too.
3 – She doesn’t want to plan everything. Take the initiative sometimes.
4 – She wants to hear your voice, even if it’s a quick hello. Sometimes, she just needs more than a text.
5 – The little things mean the most. A love note, making dinner, flowers.
6 – She always loves cute and thoughtful texts.
7 – When she’s saying goodnight, she wants you to keep her awake talking..mostly.
8 – Sometimes, she just needs you to listen, not try to solve her problems.
9 – She doesn’t care if your conversation is about nothing, she just wants to talk to you.
10 – Effort is attractive. Lazy in love could cost you a great deal, so just don’t.
11 – Lie to her and you may risk nothing ever being the same again. Trust is sacred.
12 – Send her a song that makes you think of her. She’ll swoon and be smitten with you.
13 – She overthinks everything. Don’t forget this..EVER. Communicate. You’ll never completely understand her. Just do the best you can.
14 – Make it obvious that you want her in your life, don’t play games. See #13.
15 – Yes, she wants to wear your shirts, even if they swallow her. They smell like you and she loves it.
16 – She loves it when you play with her hair.
17 – Sweet good morning texts that remind her why you love her will make her day.
18 – If she’s jealous, then she cares.
Not always the best emotion, but manifested in positive ways, it can be good..
19 – She loves when you remember the things that make her happy. See #5
20 – Treat her every day like you’re trying to win her heart all over again. Fall in love..every day.
Just because you’ve got her heart doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still court her. Anyone can fall in love. It takes work to stay in love. Don’t be lazy. If she’s worth it, then take the time and make the effort. Her gratitude, appreciation and most of all, her love, will make you glad you did.
I Needed Time
Because of you, I learned what it meant to be at peace with myself. After you left, I learned how to be alone. It took a long time for me to understand that being alone didn’t mean I had to be lonely. I worked on myself. I spoiled myself. I loved myself. And I gave myself the best gift I could have asked for. Time. I needed time to be okay with my own thoughts. My own feelings. My own need to understand the way things were and why I felt a certain way about certain things. I needed time to confess my sins to myself and truly understand what I wanted to get out of the situation I was in. I needed time to be broken so I could understand what I needed to be strong.
Give Her Space
What to do when she asks for “space” ? Most of us men, including me, don’t know what this means to be honest. All we hear is “leave me alone”. We fail to analyze what exactly this means. . She may not mean it when she tells you to leave her alone, but she does deserves a break from you. Inundating her excess amount of unnecessary attention will lead her to truly wanting to be left alone. She deserves some moments to think alone and have a little peace without you interrupting it. You are the reason she is currently suffering, you aren’t the remedy at the moment, you are simply a thorn in the wound. Yes, a woman or anyone will say things that they don’t mean when they are hurt, but that’s not the time to use persistence to manipulate her or force your way back in. It’s unfair to her. Use this time to make necessary changes if you want really want her in your life. Change the habits that have lead up to your poor decisions that put her through this in the first place. Make adjustments and modify your behaviors. If you truly loved that woman, you know she deserves the best of you, so don’t try to make her believe in the same you who trashed her heart. Focus on working on you and give her time. You may think it’s wise to show her any progress you’ve made, but it will most likely remind her of the fact that you didn’t do those things in the relationship. Leave that woman alone as you leave that old you behind. As time passes by she will see the change if she wants to and she will find reasons to give you a second chance.
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